“You are the average of the five people you spend your time with” - Jim Rhon
Who we spend our time with has so much influence on who we are, and how we show up in our lives. It’s our Level of Awareness that dictates who we surround ourselves with, so let’s have a brief discussion regarding it, and what it actually means.
Our awareness is how we perceive the world around us. Let’s say two people are sitting outside a Starbucks, having coffee, when all of a sudden there’s an explosion in the parking lot. The explosion is what has happened. Each person’s perception of what has happened, however, will be different. Why? Because we all perceive our reality in our own unique way. And that has everything to do with our level of awareness.
Before Donald Trump was President Trump, he was a business man. During his career, he had lost and remade billions of dollars. How is that possible when another person can lose $100,000 dollars and never make it back? Because President Trump’s mindset and level of awareness is operating on a higher plane, at a higher level. And because of this, he sees the world differently than someone else. He’s able to process things differently and therefore react differently.
Thoughts are proven to be energy, and energy always seeks its equal vibration. So what we think about attracts the things that are vibrating at that same frequency. The most common example of this is when you buy a new car, or are thinking of one. You may have never seen this certain model out there before, but now? It’s like they are everywhere! Recently, I’ve been toying with the idea of getting a Jeep. Now before I started to think on this, and then research them, I never really paid much attention to any Jeep around me. They just weren’t in my reality. But now? I see them everywhere! Why? Because my brain is going to filter out the things that are either aiding in my survival or my goals. A Jeep just wasn’t in either category. That’s the power of thought.
Now think about your associations, your relationships. Look at the level of thought that the people you associate with most have. What are they thinking about? What are they talking about? Are they talking about good things or bad things? Are they positive or negative? Are they gossiping or are they seeking to learn more? Are they praising and blessing or are they condescending or condemning? Our relationships are very, very important and our circle, the people around us, have a direct effect on us. We simply are the average level of their thought level. So it would be really important to pay attention to who's in your circle.
Back while I was still a teacher, I struck up a friendship with my dentist. As we hung out more and more, I began to see that he thought on a level far greater than my own level of thought. He processed his daily reality far differently than I did. My problems and challenges were so much smaller than his. I understood as we got to know each other that I was going to have to change. There were things he knew, and things he had learned along the way, that I did not. I knew I had to level up.
Let's do a little exercise.
Who are the five closest people to you right now? Rate each person through the four pillars; Integrity, Humility, Authenticity, and Morality on a scale of one to five.
The goal of this exercise is to get your inner circle filled with people that score high in each category. Remember, it starts with intention. You have to Be a person that scores high in each category, so you can Do what a person like that does, and then you will Have those around you that resonate at the same energy frequency. How would life be different if you leveled up your associations? I can only share with you from personal experience, that my life is much richer, deeper, and filled with more passion and joy because of it.
About The Author
John C. Puritz is on a mission, and he’s out to help men and women in the 21st century stand up and take control of their lives. With over 25 years of teaching, mentoring, and coaching experience, John wants to educate, equip, and empower people to learn how to become the amazing person they were created to be! John provides a uniqued and fresh perspective on how to live and lead in today’s world. No matter where you are in life’s journey, John helps to shed some light on what society is trying to take away from you, and provides awareness and empowerment to take it back. You can follow him on Instagram and Twitter @JPuritz, on Facebook and YouTube as John C. Puritz, and on his website www.manupalready.com
John lives in West Palm Beach, FL with his wife Tricia of 22 years and their two children Sofia and Ethan.